‘I had to go through different experiences to earn my place in
Sydney’
Jay , was Singaporean now
Australian.
I first
arrived Sydney in 1993; it was the time when the news announced that Sydney
would host the 2000 Olympics. At that time, I was touring with some finest
performers to promote Singapore. Sydney intrigued me instantly. In 1996, I came
for Mardi Gras and fell in love with Sydney even more. After much
consideration, I called Sydney my home in 1998.
It’s such an irony – I was supposed to encourage foreign investors to
Singapore, but Australia stole my heart instead.
Like most
immigrants to Australia, I want a better life for myself. Growing up, I felt
sterile, restricted and suffocated by the system in my country. I couldn’t be
me. All I want is to feel liberated and be comfortable in my own skin. I found
just that here. We have the freedom to express ourselves. We have support
groups within the gay communities, which give me that feeling of acceptance.
But
nothing comes easy in life. I had to go through different experiences to earn
my place in the society. I followed what
was right in my heart. I chose freedom over financial affordability. I made
some sacrifices through my journey, as I had to be apart from my love ones. I
took a huge pay cut and accepted work in junior positions. I worked very hard,
and never take anything for granted. I became a manager and fashion buyer
within few years. I live comfortably, pay my tax and enjoy the quality of life
here. I had my citizenship in 2005.
Unfortunately,
I have many challenges being a minority. I faced the odds, not only
experiencing discrimination at work but most disappointingly, within the gay
community. I was unfairly dismissed from work based on my race, gender and
sexuality. I need closure and seek justice. Fortunately, I found a great team
of multi-national solicitors and lawyer who fought for my rights. Most
importantly, I met people who really care. I am indeed blessed to have a
partner who loves me unconditionally.
Through
my experiences, I was searching for some answers. Recently, I found Pride In
Colour team; formed by a small group of volunteers and supported by the City of
Sydney. They asked me to share my stories - well, here I am sharing and being
heard.
Planting
the seeds of understanding is what this group is all about. We hope to raise
awareness on tolerance through nurturing and educating the community. This
could help eliminate ignorance, hatred and discrimination. Like so many of us
in the Pride work group, we care to make the difference. We hope to give people
the chance to be heard, feel proud of who they are and encourage them to share
their stories with PRIDE IN COLOUR.
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